Being Bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Throughout this module we have looked at many forms of being bad. From drugs, to smoking, and even masturbation have been topics of discussion. I have found this module enjoyable, and most of the lectures have been really interesting and stimulating. As a philosophy student, I have been looking mainly into why people might find this behaviour bad, and giving my own oppinion on how I would consider the specific topic to be bad if I have thought it to be, otherwise I have justified why I think that the specific topic isnt really bad. I have also enjoyed looking at other peoples blogs to see how their oppinions differ, or are similar to mine, and have enjoyed commenting on their oppinions in my own blog, and stressing my own views where possible.

Cheers Mark :D

Pathetic footballers

Ok, so top footballers are people who entertain millions of people worldwide, and i can almost see why they are getting paid so much. But when you see pathetic players like Christiano Ronaldo diving and cheating like he does it makes me think how can someone get paid that much for being a cheat?







Wayne Rooney also, i mean i am a fan of him, i think he is a fantastic footballer with a great future prospect, but to see him, as i did a few weeks back when Man United lost to Fulham swearing at the ref on a number of occasions, and punching the corner flag while he had hil little strop, it a discrace. I think he should have been fined for that, not that he would have cared because what difference does it make to him? I mean whats a few thousand pounds really? Pocket money to him. These people, who are supposed to be an inspiration to younger people, are actually just teaching them to be idiots, and sending out the wrong impression to children who actually consider these people as role models. If they behave like this regularly, they should have a wage cut as punishment, that might make them think a bit more! (Or he could just join wolves, the best move he could make in his life)
Here is a link to information, very very similar to my own:
http://robbeingbad.blogspot.com/2009/05/pathetic-footballers.html

comment following Daryl Russell's blog on picking your nose

This was an entertaining blog. I think many people do pick their nose, and I have many times while driving seem people looking in their mirrors having a good dig around, but I don’t think it’s bad really. Like you said though it is gross to see other people doing it, but we all do it so it’s no big deal. I have even caught my girlfriend doing it a couple of times (I really hope she doesn’t ask me to look at my blog, or I will spend my summer in hospital ahah) but I didn’t find it disgusting, I just thought it was funny. So, as you say, if chimps can do it and get away with it, why cant we?!

This picture is hilarious.

Illegal downloading

Well this is obviously bad, because it is stealing really because you are not paying for what you should be paying for. But its saving money isn’t it really? If you have a choice to either get something so easily for free, or pay for it, it isn’t really a hard decision. I used to download illegally until my computer broke, as I didn’t have that much money anyway so I couldn’t really afford to pay about a pound for a song when I was looking to download like 100. Ok, I wouldn’t mind paying a few pounds now and again, but 100 pound I would never spend on music, never! I can appreciate that it’s breaking the law but at the end of the day I’m not really harming anyone am I? that’s the way I see it, well I would, I’m just trying to compensate for what I’m doing. I shouldn’t really but oh well.

Comment following Ruth Sheppard's blog on gossip

I agree that people gossip mainly for the reason that they want to feel better about themselves by talking about other people generally in a negative way. I agree that it is bad because it is playing with a persons feelings, however, like you, I am also guilty of it and I think most people are. Everyone has their own opinions about other people and they aren’t always going to be nice when talking to other people about it. But like you say, it is in magazines and newspaper articles so there is no getting away from it really. I think though if people gossip about other people, they should not react so badly if they find out people are gossiping about them!

Graffiti

i know of many people who think that to look at the graffiti on a random building can be interesting, and in some cases people can find it fun. i however completely disagree, i think it makes places look rough and dirty, and i understand that the government are spending millions trying to get rid of it. i think for people to say that this is too far and a waste of money are wrong, because this work will make our towns and cities look much better.

i think to say that this looks attractive on the side of a building is rediculous, its hideous! i will however say that it is clever, and the person who did this does have a talent, although im not sure if that person has a brain. if i were to drive past an area ad i saw graffiti like this over the walls of the buildings i would seriously think that i wouldnt like to visit the area, not just because of the graffiti, but because of the message that this sends out to me; that is that the area will have people living in it that i wouldnt like and wouldnt want to be hanging around with, and that the area in general isnt very nice. i dont know if other people feel the same, that is just how i feel personally

comment following Laura Carlin's blog on nasty comedians

I heard lots about this answer phone message that was left by Russell brand and Jonathon Ross and I can see how you think that this is extremely rude and a cruel thing to do to an elderly man. To say that you no longer like them after this and that they should be sacked is in my opinion too far. Yes it was something that they should have kept to themselves, and yes it was unthoughtful, but if you look at it how does this differ from many other jokes? I am a fan of Russell brand, and have watched him on a number of occasions and find it hilarious what he says about other people, and if that makes me a bad person then fine, I can accept that. I just think that sometimes people should chill out, if Andrew Sachs had a problem then he should have been the person to complain, not others. As far as I remember there were barely any complaints about that until it became publicised.

plastic surgery

I have mixed opinions on this subject; I think it it wrong that people would want to modify their body in such a way. I think people who do this are insecure and in some cases pathetic. I think when celebrities are constantly modifying their body so as other people can find them more attractive, that it’s just a waste of time and money, and I wouldn’t support someone I knew if they decided to go for it. however I must also accept that a persons body is their own, and in my tattoo blog I said that it is up to me what I do with my own body, and that if other people have a problem they can mind their own business. Maybe I should just mind my own business with this then, as it’s not my problem. But I can’t change my feelings, I think it’s stupid.
Here is a link to show the WORST results from plastic surgery:
http://www.topsocialite.com/the-15-worst-celebrity-plastic-surgery-disasters-you-will-ever-see/

comment following faith jones' blog on skinny celebs

I agree that skinny celebs are a bad influence, as it encourages younger people to do the same and become far too skinny. As you say, people shouldn’t get praised for being super skinny, because if you look at it in another way, they are getting praised for being unhealthy (and unattractive in my opinion). For people to copy what they are seeing is causing illnesses such as anorexia as they are simply giving up food. I can’t see how this cannot constitute as bad.

comment following Zoe Cox' oppinion on public display of affection

I completely agree with what you have said here, there is no harm in holding hands or kissing your partner in public, me and my girlfriend do it all the time. But like you said, when it comes to the tonsil tennis it really isn’t something you want to witness if you are out and about in public. I will admit I have occasionally been guilty of this when I’m with my girlfriend, but that’s only if we are in a bar in town, slightly tipsy, and looking forward to bedtime.... seriously though, I agree that there is a time and a place. I agree with what you said regarding trying to eat in the presence of a couple being a bit too lovey in public, it is a put off, and I guess couples should have more respect in that sense.

pot luck = no luck! (Gambling)

i enjoy the occasional visit to the casino, i find it enjoyable playing games such as roulette, blackjack and occasionally the slots. to say that it is a sin is a bit over the top for me, as i find it enjoyable and fun, and that is how people should gamble in my oppinion. having been to the casino a few times though i have seen a few characters who really should not ever enter through those casino doors; for example i sawe a man the once gamble on roulette about £500 and managed to lose it in under 10 minutes. after losing it i saw him pay £1.50 to use the cash point and withdraw another £200 (i was very nosey to notice all this, but i was curious how someone could gamble so much money) and another 10 minutes later that had gone too. i could tell from the expression on his face that he was distraught and almost in tears at how much money he had managed to lose. he was shaking and running his hand through his hair, and by this time i wasnt the only person who noticed how messed up this guy looked. he then quickly left the casino, and i wouldnt have been suprised if he just broke down after he left.

people who gamble money that they really cant afford to lose, reaklly shouldnt start in the first place. very few people will win overall by gambling, so to gamble money that you cant afford to lose is rediculous. only once did i enter the casino and feel gutted and upset at how id let myself lose an amount of money, and that amount was £35. to some who gamble, like me, that is far to much money to lose and i have never done that since, but for others, thats just getting started on a night that is either going to end in disaster, or extremely well. i never want to take those risks, i just want to enjoy myself and spend say 5 or 10 pounds there, because even if you lose it its a good night.

so to say that gambling constitutes as bad really depends on how you are gambling; if you are gambling a bit of money that you can afford to lose and still have a good night then thats fine, and you never know you could even walk out with more money than you came in with! however if you are gambling money that if you lost would make you feel feel upset and angry, then it is bad, no exceptions. this can also lead to addiction, and an addiction to gambling could seriously ruin a persons life. so if you find that that person is you, dont ever go to the casino!

Shoplifting

i stumbled across this picture on the internet the other day, and paused to look at it as the woman looks slightly like michael jackson. anyway, besides looking like michael jackson, she is also a shoplifter as you can see. i find it interesting how a woman who can afford a leather jacket can not afford to buy a dvd, but you never know, it might not be leather. the last time i shoplifted was when i was about 13, when i stole a freddo from sainsburys, but i didnt have a leather jacket on, and i couldnt even afford the freddo!

i have always been against shoplifting (as you would probably imagine), and have occasionally when i was younger found that a couple of my friends regularly shoplifted and not seemed to care at all about what they were doing, however when i stole that freddo i was really scared. i would tell them on a regular basis that it is wrong, not that it made a scrap of difference.

shoplifting is not just talking goods from a shop, but its stealing money from someone elses pocket in a sence, and it cannot be justified and not classed as bad behaviour. the reasons for stealing must also be taken into consideration, for example in Jay Langleys blog on shoplifting he expained that a person stole clothes to sell, so as they could have money to buy drugs. this is a common issue, and a major cause for concern.

obviously there are many crimes that are much worse than shoplifting, however if it is done on a regular basis then it makes what may seem to some a small crime a much bigger one. if people rely on shoplifting to gain money they need then there is a serious problem, and one that certainly constitutes as bad.

comment following Eli Richards' blog on paedophiles

The figures you have shown here are disturbing, and like you said this is a subject that just makes you feel angry thinking about as its so disturbing that words cannot explain it. I agree that paedophiles should be castrated and locked away forever; anyone deserves that if they are prepared to perform sick acts on young children. Children should be looked after even if they are not your own, so anyone who can do that doesn’t deserve to walk the streets. Like you say, it’s a complete violation of child innocence, and if I had a child and someone did that to my child, I would personally want to kill them, as they don’t deserve to live.

Tattoos

I myself have a tattoo, but it’s just a small, discreet dragon on my shoulder. I see absolutely nothing wrong with a person having a tattoo if they want one; it’s their body and they can do what they like with it. If someone else doesn’t like it or has a problem with it then that’s their problem and the way I see it they should mind their own business and keep their opinions to themselves. None of my family has had a problem with my tattoo, apart from my aunt who lives in America. When she came back she made a sly comment about it and I remember thinking mind your own business, stupid woman. I have never really liked her as much since, but maybe I shouldn’t take it personally. Back to the point thought, if people see that we shouldn’t abuse our bodies that god gave us, then they should also look at the fact that we have free will, so we can do what the hell we like with our bodies, within reason of course. No self harm or anything like that. Oh and tattoos are not self harm! Its body art. :D

comment following Adam Priestlys blog on speeding

I found that story about a man seeing a dead child everywhere he went interesting, because I myself would never be able to forgive myself if I killed a child on the road, that’s why I don’t drive like an idiot. It would be the same for me if I killed that child, because I would never be able to get that sickening image out of my head, and it would follow me wherever I went. I agree that sometimes driving over the speed limit you can be confident that you are driving safe enough not to be putting anyone in danger, however I also agree that the speed limit is there for a reason like you said. I said I’m my blog also that people who drive have to be responsible for other peoples lives and not just their own, its just a shame that not everyone shares the same opinion as us in that respect.

homosexuality

I know many people who think this is immoral and abnormal, and obviously I have my own feelings on this. I suppose if you look at it in a way it is abnormal, I would agree to that, but to say it’s immoral... I wouldn’t agree with people who say that; at the end of the day people who are homosexual don’t choose to be like this, it’s just the way they are and they can’t help it. Also they aren’t really harming anyone else being like this are they, so I can’t see how it can be classed as 'bad'. People, who have a problem with this, I think, are the people who are wrong, as it has nothing to do with them so there is no need to say anything or get involved. I have a sister who is homosexual, but looking at her you wouldn’t think she is but she is. She has never intentionally affected anyone because of it, however she has still had comments thrown at her whilst in public if she has been holding hands with her girlfriend. The people who are throwing the comments are the people in the wrong, and not her. On her 18th birthday a couple of years ago, she had a party and then went clubbing after and took me with her and a couple of her mates. I was only just 17, so I had never been clubbing before, but when I got there it was obvious that it was a gay club (not that I knew that before I got inside) and felt a bit awkward. But after talking to a few people inside I began to realise that there was no need to feel awkward, as these people were just completely normal, friendly people in general. Obviously there were a few idiots, but that’s to be expected anywhere. I realised that these people shouldn’t be treated differently from anyone else (I thought that anyway, but it just confirmed my opinion). If people have a problem with homosexual people then that’s their problem, they shouldn’t let it affect anyone who is, or it is them that are in the wrong.
Here is a link relating to how homosexuality cannot be immoral from a utilitarian approach:
http://www.utilitarian.net/singer/by/200610--.htm

Speeding

Driving is fun, I can appreciate that, and if I find myself late for work (not surprisingly that’s quite often) I find myself driving faster and overtaking the occasional car on the way. I am as careful as I can, but I can appreciate that what I am doing is wrong. Sticking to the speed limit, especially in a 30 zone, I don’t often do, however it isn’t much over the speed limit that I travel; generally about 35-40mph. the main issue here I think is when you get people racing at speeds that are ridiculous. For example, the other day as I was driving home from work I was overtaken by a car that must have been travelling at about 90mph in a 50 zone. I myself was travelling at about 60, but this car flew past me like I wasn’t there! It made me realise that these are the people that don’t only risk their own lives on the road, but are prepared to risk other people’s lives just to show off in front of their mates or whatever. Admittedly I do drive faster, but never like that. I would never wish to put my friends or girlfriend in danger if I am driving them, and I can’t see why other people would want to. Well other than just showing off in front of other people, risking their lives, why else would they do it? If a person wants to show off, why do they have to risk other people’s lives in the process? There is no need for it, it’s stupid.

Comment following 'Jay Langleys' Infidelity

Unfortunately everyone does experience this either directly or indirectly through family or friends, and I agree that the circumstances differ in each relationship. however I do disagree when you say that the circumstances should be looked at or compensated in a way; ok, it may not have been the persons initial desire to cheat, but at the end of the day they are in control of their own actions, and it is their final decision if they cheat on their partner, and nobody else’s. When you say that people in a loving relationship that cheat are weak and greedy I couldn’t agree more! If a person is lucky enough to be in a happy relationship with someone they really care about then there is simply no need to cheat at all, greedy sums it up perfectly. As you say, cheating isn’t morally correct, however in my opinion people shouldn’t be more sensitive under any circumstances, as like I said, everyone is in control of their own actions.

Hooligans

the only hooliganism i have really witnessed is football hooliganism. im often at the molineux











watching wolves get promoted :D:D:D:D:D so i am unfortunately around now and again if there is trouble starting. but why do people start fights over a football match? the answer i do know, and that is that the atmosphere at a game, especially if the game is against a rival club is amazing, and it builds up adrenaline. this adrenaline for some people makes some fans want to start trouble and fights with the other fans after the game. just because i understand why there are fights, doesnt mean that i agree or appreciate why people do it. at the end of the day its stupid, football is there to be enjoyed and thats why people pay to go to the games. end of.
to want to start fights after a game is pointless (unless its against west brom....... joke) there is no need for it. in the past it has lead to children, elderly people, and other innocent people getting hurt. im sure the people starting fights wouldnt want their children or family getting hurt, so why do it to other peoples just because they support a different team? that cant be justified.

Prostitution

its selling your dignity isnt it really? however i understand that in many cases its more of a problem than just sleeping with other people for money. some people, mainly women as i understand are drugged until they become addicted to the drug; once they become dependant on that drug then they are forced into prostitution so they can continue to be given drugs by the dealer. it is a way of controlling them and forcing them to do something that they would never normally do, and to put money in some bastards pocket, its sick.


every prostitute has their own story (if you want to call it a story). this woman here for example, she could be doing this because she is forced to do it for her living or for drugs. or she could simply be doing it for herself, whether it being because she cant get a job she wants, or even because it pays well. obviously this is wrong, and i cant see why there cant be a way out if there is support available. obviously they dont see it that way, but there is always someone there to help, even if it isnt family or friends.
i think people who pay for prostitution are equally as bad as the prostitutes themselves, and in some cases worse. i wonder if they realise that they are fuelling violence, drugs and other crime? i wonder if they care?! they have to be equally as sick to result to this. low.

Bullying

If you think about it, why do people do this in the first place? For a bully there are no obvious benefits of doing it, but then I realised that maybe I’m wrong; there’s reputation. A person, say a schoolchild, could bully other people so as to maintain his or her reputation of being someone who you don’t fuck around with, someone people look up to and want to be friends with. It’s a popularity thing I guess. But to seriously damage someone’s life for popularity!? It takes a pathetic person inside to do that, someone who is insecure and attention seeking. I’m sure they wouldn’t look upon themselves as being insecure, but in my opinion they are if they have to do something so stupid to get the attention they so desperately want.
This link gives information about school bullies and about the violence related to it:
http://www.safety-council.org/info/child/bullies.html

Animal cruelty

Just thinking about this makes me feel sick and angry. I myself have a dog- a Japanese Akita- who is fussed too much and treated better by my parents than I am (slight exaggeration). The thought of her getting abuse and hit I cannot imagine, but in some cases obviously this does happen. I remember a while back when I read in the paper about how a man was verbally and occasionally physically assaulting his partner, so she brought him a puppy to try to soften him (stupid idea really) however following one of his tempers he took a hammer and hit the puppy over the head with it, and left it to slowly die an unimaginable death. How can anyone do that to such an innocent, harmless puppy? What I struggle to accept is that people, sick people, are capable of this cruelty. Another example was in September 2008 when a horse was shot dead in a field in Surrey. This is just pointless cruelty that has no point or purpose. The person who shot the horse should be shot themselves!

following taras comment about abortion

Appreciate the comment. I totally agree with you when you say that there is no need for abortion at such a late stage, which for me is unforgivable. I also agree when you say people should be responsible enough not to get pregnant, because with pregnancy comes responsibility! Some people can’t accept that. Couples need to be careful if they have unprotected sex, or simply accept that 9 months later they could be a family!

Dealing drugs

Do you care about breaking the law? Do you care about anyone apart from yourself? Would it bother you that you could cause the deaths of a number of people? Would you mind ruining other people’s lives just to benefit yourself financially? If not, then why not be a drug dealer!

Taking Drugs

Following the excellent lecture on drugs the other day, I can understand why people, who had no real knowledge of the dangers of taking drugs in the past, did take them. LSD for example, a way of making people perceive what isn’t really happening is an experience that may sound to some people, me included, thrilling and exciting. People used to believe that they could come in contact with a more spiritual world where they could be close to God. Soldiers also used to take LSD so they could cope better with the horrors that the experience of war can bring. not that it would do them much good; a video shown in class shows how the soldiers became vulnerable to attack, losing their alertness, discreetness and how prepared they were for attack. They may have less fear, but in some cases fear can be a benefit as it would have made them careful. Drugs now are obviously seen as a negative think because of the long and short term effects they have on the body. The effects of drugs short term may be that you have a good night out and forget the stresses that the real world holds, however this may not be the case. In some cases the body can react disastrously to the drug resulting in death. This could also be a slow process that happens after taking drugs for a long period of time. When I was at school I knew people who started taking drugs at a young age, they were about 15. A few months ago I saw a couple of them again, and it was obvious that the drugs heavily affected their lives negatively after speaking with them for just a couple of minutes. I could have chosen that path at that age. I didn’t. And I made the right choice.

Lying

Everyone tells lies right? I mean say if a child approaches a parent with a drawing and upon looking at it the parent thinks it is a load of shit, the parent will still say well done right? Instead of saying how awful it is and that the child shouldn’t bother. I personally do tell the occasional white lie; like when my girlfriend asks me if she is annoying me that it takes her about 4 years to get ready, or if my friend asks me if I want to see his holiday pictures and I say yes when secretly I’m thinking id rather eat his pet hamster. Yes it’s a lie if you look at the simple picture, but in the greater picture you are preventing hurting someone’s feelings and damaging the relationship you have with that person. As a untilitarianist, I see it as I’m making people happy rather than upset, and it results in me being liked more, which is obviously better than these people thinking I’m a dick. So yes, in my opinion, liars are liked more in that way. On the other hand I think if you look at a scheming person, who lies and deceives for their own benefit, such as saying to your partner you would never cheat on then, and half an hour later your in bed with her 'friend', then that is bad, very bad (the lying I mean, although the cheating is bad but its a separate issue), and I myself would not lie to people to deceive then or betray them, unless I had to save my families life for example. I think lying can be seen as acceptable, if it brings happiness to the greatest number without betraying a person or being deceitful.
This link explains why allowing lying is a good thing:
http://www.reason.com/news/show/34622.html

Consuming ALCOHOL

Lets face it, we are all students here, and im sure most peoples defenitions of 'bad' doesnt involve alcohol, or rather unexcessive consuming of alcohol. i am an alcohol consumer, and have been since i was about 15. i think as long as people recognise their limits and knowing where to stop, and not exceeding these limits, then consuming alcohol should be seen as a social benefit. many people do have this frame of mind when relating to alcohol. however not everyone does have this frame of mind; i think people who drink alcohol excessively with the frame of mind of getting drunk intentionally then it is bad. i am bad because of this (now and again) but i can accept that and accept any consequences that may result from this, and, in my oppinion when i am drunk i trust myself not to do anything that i may later regret (when sober). however there are people, as you may have heard, do really stupid things when they are drunk. take this guy for example:

i am sure that he has had better days, and the result that the excessive alcohol has had on him has been negative, bad. in this case alcohol consumption is bad, or the excessive consumption. the point i am making is simple, know your limits and dont exceed them.... too much.

euthanasia

Like abortion, this is a topic I have found myself spontaneously thinking about since I was at school, where I also did a debate on the subject (this time encouraging it to be made legal). However I am still completely torn as to whether it should be made illegal. On the one had there is the fact that it would be more regular, and people would result to euthanasia when they may be depressed or in a situation which could be solved with regular help or treatment. However on the other hand there are people who are living their life in constant pain on a hospital bed, and know that they will never leave this bed. Could you imagine knowing that you would never leave your bed again and that you will spend the rest of your life, however long that is in pain? Id rather just die with dignity, and I’m sure many other people would. If a member of my family, heaven forbid, was in that situation I would do the right thing and assist them with suicide if I knew there was no other way out, I honestly would if that’s what they wanted me to do. So overall if it was to be made legal, then there would have to be tight rules on the circumstances on which this is made legal so as it doesn’t go out of control, which if these rules weren’t applied, I’m sure would happen.
This website helped me with my blog, and explains why euthanasia should be made legal:
http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/12-9-2004-62722.asp

Abortion *this contains an image you might find disturbing*

This i have found myself debating with myself for years, ever since i was sitting in my classroom at school arguing for abortion to be made illegal (this isnt my oppinion as you will soon see, i was told to argue for this) in my GCSE english verbal exam. at the end of the day, there is something about abortion that seems unforgiveable, as it destroys a potential life. but is it really unforgiveable? well im some cases i would say yes, like if there is a baby that properly starting to develop as the parent has waited too long to decide to abort her baby, and aborted a baby that is more than just a couple of months pregnant, take this picture for example:










for me, it is hard to see how this is not murder, as that baby has clear shape and must have been the result of an abortion that occured after more than just a few weeks of pregnancy. for me, here, the line has been crossed.
however, despite how disturbing that picture is, abortion, in some cases is the right thing to do. if the parent feels that they cannot provide for the baby financially, and knows in their heart that they are not ready to bring up a child with the love and attention it needs, then it is best both for the child as well as the parent if the child is aborted, although i do feel really bad saying this. in some cases where i have seen parents hitting their 12 month old baby in a street full of people, after seeing about 2 minutes where that parent treats their child like a piece of shit, i think that the child would have been better off aborted. some parents simply cannot look after children, and the result is that the child has a terrable upbringing and an awful start to life. these cases would only increase if abortion was made illegal. but this doesnt mean that people shouldnt take precautions when having sex, its no excuse.

unprotected sex

lets face it, its more enjoyable right? (im glad i have reached a stage where my mom doesnt bother to read my work) dispite the risks that are made obvious by the media etc people still choose to do it, but i can understand why as it is easier and more enjoyable. but is this really worth all the risks and the potential dangers it can cause? pregnancy can cause many problems, especilly when it comes to casual sex and with teenage pregnancy. many young, teenage people across the world find thenselves with the dilemma of whether they should keep their child or not. this could result in them making a desicion that they later regret as they felt under pressure or desperate to make a desicion quickly, is it really worth all these emotional problems and stress that it causes when protection is widely and easily available? my oppinion is that it isnt, however i would imagine that this rarely considered when two people are about to have sex.... also, as everyone knows with casual sex there is the risk of catching an STD. if you think about it it really isnt worth the risk, whatever mood your in.

is masturbation immoral?

No chance. I mean realistically if it is then most males will be guilty of being immoral, me included, and lots of females. My view on the subject is that it is safe, consequence free, doesn't endanger anyone of becoming pregnant, and has its own benefits related to stress-relief. If you masturbate and understand what your body enjoys, you will be able to communicate with to your future partner more easily. Being able to tell your partner what really works for you is going to make sex more enjoyable and give you partner a solid information base to experiment with. You can't expect someone else to know how to please you if you can't please yourself can you really? As I have heard, some girls don’t like their boyfriends masturbating regularly as it 'makes the sex less enjoyable'... I don’t think this is true, everyone has needs; sometimes your girl isn’t around to fulfil them... Wounded for them! :P

is there really a good excuse for infidelity

Many people will and do try to justify why they cheat on their partners. I myself have yet to be guilty of this ' bad' behaviour; however I never plan to and am strongly against it. I do however appreciate why sometimes people do it, well I would say understand rather than appreciate... I read an article about how a married man found his wife was giving him little or no attention, showed him no love or that she cared. He loved his wife but felt the relationship was dying, and longed to feel wanted again. Eventually he became wanted again, but it wasn’t his wife giving him this attention, but a colleague at work who showed an interest in him. What happened next is obvious, but the question is how did it get to this stage? I believe there are no excuses for this as I believe that if there had been more communication in the relationship then this problem couldn’t have accumulated. Both need to be prepared to sort out and discuss their problems; otherwise the relationship isn’t going to go anywhere. If the person isn’t prepared to listen, then the question of is the relationship going to work is open to question. There is no excuse for infidelity. Feel free to argue with me, I’m open minded so will listen to any criticism you throw at me.
This link looks into the debate that is; Can relationships survive infidelity?:
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/this-britain/can-a-relationship-ever-survive-infidelity-our-experts-comment-465949.html

sexy smoking???? :S

Everyone knows the risks that smoking causes, yet still millions of people choose to do it worldwide. But why? We focused on the attractiveness of smoking specifically and used a certain number of case studies to show examples of this. Personally I can’t see how smoking a cigarette, which makes a persons breath and clothes smell bad can be considered sexy, I myself find it completely the opposite of sexy. However it was interesting to experience different views of other people on why they disagreed with my personal opinion. The shape, and the manner of which the cigarette is inhaled and obviously the person smoking the cigarette all influences how 'sexy' smoking can be. Do they also find the large warning message on the cigarette packet sexy :S? I’m guessing not. I appreciate that many people are going to strongly disagree with what I am saying here, but as I see it its unclean and a waste of money to damage a persons health. But that is just my opinion at the end of the day.
But if you disagree with me, you will enjoy this link:
http://www.1sexysmoking.com/